Have you ever felt that you’re carrying pain that’s not your own? The burgeoning field of epigenetics reveals: “Traumatic experiences in our past, or in our recent ancestors’ past, leave molecular scars adhering to our DNA….The genome has long been known as the blueprint of life, but the epigenome is life’s Etch A Sketch: Shake […]
How Would Your Life Change if You Could Ask for Whatever You Want?
I believe in the power of making requests. Vulnerable, specific, actionable requests. So many good things can happen when you make powerful requests: ~You offer people an opportunity to contribute to your life. ~You deepen your sense of self-connection and being “fully with” yourself. ~You exponentially increase your chances of having your needs actually met. […]
What Would You Do with Your Life if You Were Living Your True Purpose?
Almost two decades ago, I passed through a toll booth on the San Francisco Bay Bridge. I held out my money to a toll taker, and in return he beamed at me, his smile radiant and his eyes kind. With the buoyant warmth of a parent talking to their beloved child, he asked, “How are […]
What Would You Change in Your Life Today if You Trusted Your Needs Would Still Be Met?
I don’t know about you, but when I was younger, I accomplished a lot in my life through force, “willpower,” punishments and rewards, and deadlines (emphasis on the “dead” part, which is how I often felt at the finish line of projects and degrees). I’d been conditioned to think that coercion, from myself or others, […]
Are You Stuck in a Response Rut? How Your Listening Can Deepen or Distance Your Relationships
–> Have you ever wanted to support someone, but what you said or didn’t say seemed to make things worse? –> Do you rerun conversations afterward, cringing about what you said, and wishing you could have a “do-over”—even if you aren’t exactly sure what you’d do or say differently? –> Do you fear conflict, because […]