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Transforming Domination Culture from the Inside Out

How Would Your Life Change if You Could Ask for Whatever You Want?

February 6, 2016 By Angela Watrous

image4I believe in the power of making requests.

Vulnerable, specific, actionable requests.

So many good things can happen when you make powerful requests:

~You offer people an opportunity to contribute to your life.
~You deepen your sense of self-connection and being “fully with” yourself.
~You exponentially increase your chances of having your needs actually met.

On the surface, making powerful requests is fairly simple:

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Filed Under: Nonviolent Communication, Requests, Warm Resonant Support

Making Nourishing, Accomplishable New Year’s Resolutions Free of Self-Domination, Defeatism, and “Shoulds”

January 6, 2014 By Angela Watrous

Every year, an estimated 40 percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but one study suggests that only 12 percent actually accomplish their goals. Why do so many of us start each new year with resolutions, only to drop them once the hope of a fresh start diminishes?

The cultural message about our unsuccessful attempts to stick to our resolutions is that we’re lazy, distracted, or incompetent. But the standard resolutions model we’re given actually set us up to “fail” and thus break trust with ourselves, so that we’re left in doubt of our own ability to act from a place of empowered intentionality. When we fail to achieve our goals with that model, we’re told we lack willpower, and to try again. And again, and again, until we get tired and give up. We may get so discouraged and angry that we resolve never to make another “stupid resolution” again. But without setting and acting on our own intentions—whatever the time of year—how can we ever hope to be empowered, fulfilled, and truly free? [Read more…]

Filed Under: Compassion and Self-Compassion, Domination, Coercion, Shoulds, Empathy, Feelings, Needs, Requests, Warm Resonant Support

Releasing Shoulds and Choosing Joy: A Restorative Approach to the Holidays

November 11, 2013 By Angela Watrous

Six years ago, my grandmother died a week and a half before Christmas. While she was ninety-one and physically incapacitated by ill health, her death was a huge visceral shock to my system. She’d helped raise me from the time I was four, and while our relationship had not been without its pain and complications, she’d been the woman who’d sat with me at the kitchen table for thousands of hours, playing games, eating meals, being my life’s most constant companion. She was very much my parent, and after losing her, I immediately released all my usual approaches to the holidays, fully expecting that the inevitable result would be a time of bleakness and unrelenting grief. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Compassion and Self-Compassion, Domination, Coercion, Shoulds, Feelings, Needs, Nonviolent Communication, Requests

From Procrastination to Collaboration: Resolving Inner Conflict By Making Time for All of Your Needs

September 14, 2013 By Angela Watrous

Why do we do one thing when we’re trying to accomplish another? Our predominant cultural message is that procrastination is personal weakness, lack of willpower, or some other personality flaw that must be overcome—an assessment that more often leads to self-recrimination than any satisfying resolution of the problem. That’s because procrastination isn’t a flaw, it’s actually an important signal that you have an inner conflict in need of attention. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Collaboration, Compassion and Self-Compassion, Domination, Coercion, Shoulds, Needs, Nonviolent Communication, Requests, Uncategorized

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