Dear one, have you been feeling stuck lately? —Are there painful memories or thoughts looping in your head, hurting you over and over? —Do parts of your life get consistently neglected because it hurts to turn toward them? —Are repeating relational patterns wearing you down? —Do your biggest dreams keep getting back-burnered? If yes, I have […]
What Does It Really Take to Not Give Up? A Simple Approach for Difficult Times
When the going gets tough, the tough get going. This is the advice our culture offers us about fortitude amidst adversity: If you’re tough, you’ll do something. If you’re not tough, well, toughen up. If that doesn’t work, there’s something wrong with you. Try harder. Rely on willpower. Buck up. Didn’t work? Buckle down. Try […]
What Would You Do with Your Life if You Were Living Your True Purpose?
Almost two decades ago, I passed through a toll booth on the San Francisco Bay Bridge. I held out my money to a toll taker, and in return he beamed at me, his smile radiant and his eyes kind. With the buoyant warmth of a parent talking to their beloved child, he asked, “How are […]
Are You Stuck in a Response Rut? How Your Listening Can Deepen or Distance Your Relationships
–> Have you ever wanted to support someone, but what you said or didn’t say seemed to make things worse? –> Do you rerun conversations afterward, cringing about what you said, and wishing you could have a “do-over”—even if you aren’t exactly sure what you’d do or say differently? –> Do you fear conflict, because […]
What Would You Do with Your Life if You Had More Support?
I’m writing you tonight from the recently reopened community room at Wilbur Hot Springs. I hear some guests cooking their meals in the nearby kitchen and others chatting over their dinner by the fireplace. In the library, folks are reading and napping on overstuffed sofas. The atmosphere is warm and nurturing and familiar, which is […]