I believe in the power of making requests. Vulnerable, specific, actionable requests. So many good things can happen when you make powerful requests: ~You offer people an opportunity to contribute to your life. ~You deepen your sense of self-connection and being “fully with” yourself. ~You exponentially increase your chances of having your needs actually met. […]
Making Nourishing, Accomplishable New Year’s Resolutions Free of Self-Domination, Defeatism, and “Shoulds”
Every year, an estimated 40 percent of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, but one study suggests that only 12 percent actually accomplish their goals. Why do so many of us start each new year with resolutions, only to drop them once the hope of a fresh start diminishes? The cultural message about our unsuccessful attempts […]
Releasing Shoulds and Choosing Joy: A Restorative Approach to the Holidays
Six years ago, my grandmother died a week and a half before Christmas. While she was ninety-one and physically incapacitated by ill health, her death was a huge visceral shock to my system. She’d helped raise me from the time I was four, and while our relationship had not been without its pain and complications, […]
From Procrastination to Collaboration: Resolving Inner Conflict By Making Time for All of Your Needs
Why do we do one thing when we’re trying to accomplish another? Our predominant cultural message is that procrastination is personal weakness, lack of willpower, or some other personality flaw that must be overcome—an assessment that more often leads to self-recrimination than any satisfying resolution of the problem. That’s because procrastination isn’t a flaw, it’s […]