By the time we’re four months old, our interactions with our primary caregiver reveal whether or not we’ll have a secure or insecure attachment—our foundation for all our love relationships. We learn early and unconsciously which emotions our primary caregiver can welcome in themselves and in us. If they get angry or overwhelmed when we’re […]
What Does It Really Take to Not Give Up? A Simple Approach for Difficult Times
When the going gets tough, the tough get going. This is the advice our culture offers us about fortitude amidst adversity: If you’re tough, you’ll do something. If you’re not tough, well, toughen up. If that doesn’t work, there’s something wrong with you. Try harder. Rely on willpower. Buck up. Didn’t work? Buckle down. Try […]
Wiping Clean the Family Curse: Healing Family Systems, Healing Our World
Have you ever felt that you’re carrying pain that’s not your own? The burgeoning field of epigenetics reveals: “Traumatic experiences in our past, or in our recent ancestors’ past, leave molecular scars adhering to our DNA….The genome has long been known as the blueprint of life, but the epigenome is life’s Etch A Sketch: Shake […]
How Would Your Life Change if You Could Ask for Whatever You Want?
I believe in the power of making requests. Vulnerable, specific, actionable requests. So many good things can happen when you make powerful requests: ~You offer people an opportunity to contribute to your life. ~You deepen your sense of self-connection and being “fully with” yourself. ~You exponentially increase your chances of having your needs actually met. […]
What Would You Do with Your Life if You Were Living Your True Purpose?
Almost two decades ago, I passed through a toll booth on the San Francisco Bay Bridge. I held out my money to a toll taker, and in return he beamed at me, his smile radiant and his eyes kind. With the buoyant warmth of a parent talking to their beloved child, he asked, “How are […]